The Heavy Stuff

From my experience in life and study, I have come to some basic elements of why we struggle mentally.
Traumatic experiences - Trauma is not what happened to you, it is what happened inside you, as a result of what happened to you. [Dr. Gabor Maté]. This is the emotional pain that stays with us.
Parents and our upbringing - We all need stable parents to get us through childhood. You come into the world with your own wants & needs. If our parents cannot or don’t know what we need and we are not allowed to express our emotions freely, safely & without judgement, we become emotionally troubled. We also can not be our authentic self, because we need to stay attached to our parents to stay alive.
We need to please our parents so we don’t feel rejected, otherwise we will be alone. This sometimes means we try hard to get their attention.
Now as an adult we continue this on. Trying to be good or better or people pleasing or comparing ourselves to others or busy with work or anxious to fit in.
Or we give up and become depressed, sad and alone, thinking that no one cares about us.
Each person has their own unique experience of growing up, which means that we need to get to know you and what it has been like for you.

This is all heavy stuff James, I hear you say, but what can we do?

You are already curious and interested and that is all you need to start exploring your true authentic self. The real person inside.
I would enjoy helping you explore who that person is and why did they need to be shut down or turned off.

Here are a few videos that may explain some of it for you.

Gabor Maté – Authenticity vs. Attachment
http://bit.ly/3SxsLIe

Fraya Mortensen - Your Inner Child Needs You
https://bit.ly/4a7howI